>>8828The masculinity gay men display is behaviors that are more common in men at their core (confidence, hypersexuality / sexual aggression, etc). The femininity is more aesthetic or superficial based on their sexual orientation. Compare how TIFs are shy, neurotic, complain about hookups and dick pics, want someone to understand their feelings, etc.
Also gay men are drawn to "classic" interior-design type aesthetics or well-groomed but normal male clothes (see euro gays) or campy tacky stuff like picrel (Village People, leather, hairy, muscular, leather cowboy, daddy, etc). TIFs like stuff that's so cutesy and girly. It's different than what even the most flamboyant twinky gays would like irl but hard to explain. I think it's the sheer cutesy-ness of it.
Why would you really want to join the gay community as a straight women unless you are really naive anyways? All TIFs have to be sheltered or unaware of how gay men really are. The gay community is so sexually aggressive when it comes to hookups and it's a very lonely existence. Lots of gays don't ever settle down or find a partner, there's rampant STDs and drug abuse, most people hooking up just want sex and your body, blowing out your asshole, etc. It's a shallow world.
Most TIFs would be happier accepting being a straight woman and appreciating 2D men in peace. Most are so straight it hurts and even try to get pregnant. It's obvious they want a man who accepts them and understands their feelings. Just try to find a nice guy and settle down and read yaoi in a nice with kids if that's what you want.