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>>10097Post shower thoughts or stuff that doesn't fit other threads.
No.12063
>>12062What website is this nonna?
Also! Congrats on the otp!!!!
No.12068
>>12060Make the most of the time you have. Drown in smut.
No.12069
>>12060Some of the best smut I've encountered was written by a someone who is asexual. You've still got a lifetime ahead of you to work on it, nonna. Don't give up so easily.
No.12070
>>12069>a someone who is asexual.They don't exist.
No.12078
I like goth fashion and part of me wants to get into it but at the same time I'm such an antisocial person that it doesn't make sense to start buying corset lace blouses and legwarmers when all I really do in my free time is sit inside playing videogames and watching anime. And at work I have a uniform.
No.12079
>>12078Are you armed forces nonnie?
No.12080
>>12078I mean, I work from home and don't do shit either, but I have a closet full of lolita and wear it to play video games. you should buy a few things and see how you feel. surely you go outside for errands, right? it might be fun for you to dress up!!!
No.12081
>>12079Nah, I work in retail.
>>12080Fair enough. Guess it wouldn't hurt as long as it's in my price range.
No.12084
i'm browsing twitter and after seeing a shitton of yumes, i'm wondering how yumes engage with fandom as a whole, ESPECIALLY those who don't share their husbandos and block others who 1) also yume him or 2) ship him with canon characters.
for example, fujos who share the same ship have a strong sense of community. we can discuss the ship and both characters themselves, how they interact, and why it makes sense to us. we're invested.
but for yumes, isn't this discussion lopsided? discussion can only be about the GUY in the yumeship unless other yumes are willing to give a shit about someone's personal OC lore. and do they care? why would they? and in the case where a yume is "non-sharing," then they can't even be friends with other yumes who like the same guy… so they're in a community of other yumeshippers for different characters, just talking about themselves and to themselves, but no one really cares or is interacting on a deep level? seriously curious how these communities interact. they seem very siloed to me, as an outsider.
No.12086
>>12084I see more posts about "infighting within the yume community" than I ever see anything actually from the yume community, I shit you not I saw a post going over how racist the community apparently is but I can't ever find a place where they actually discuss anything?
I guess it just becomes a scenario where you talk with your pre existing friends about how much you love your husbando in a "back off bitch he's mine" kind of way. I don't know, I have a husbando but he's from an otome game and isn't a terribly popular choice at that so I've only run into one other person who liked him and we had a pleasant conversation about why we like him so much (maybe otome fans are just less crazy than the typical gendie selfshipper type?)
No.12087
>>12084From what I've personally observed, most yumes either have a personal clique of 3-4 friends who just egg them on "wow I love your ship of charaxyou" and that's as far as their interaction goes. Some others REALLY want you to give a shit about their OC, and I think people who are open to OCs in general are the ones that care about what yumes have to say.
Yumeing is an inherently selfish thing, you basically ignore everything about the source material just to think about yourself being with your fav and nothing else. For some people, that's brave because "the source material sucks anyway" but if you think that way did you even like your supposed husbando at all? It's just shallow.
>fujos who share the same ship have a strong sense of community. snrk, not always tho No.12088
>>12078Instagram used to be good for posting fashion photos into the void before it changed the way tags work so no one will see your images if you don't have a high follower count. I end up putting the most effort into dressing up when with friends.
No.12089
>>12086>I can't ever find a place where they actually discuss anything? The only yume community that I've ever seen has been on reddit of all places, and it was basically just people making posts about their ships/self-inserts. There was very little discussion.
>>12087>For some people, that's brave because "the source material sucks anyway" but if you think that way did you even like your supposed husbando at all? It's just shallow.I can understand not liking every plot decision made in a story, or thinking that a great character is trapped in a terrible piece of media, etc, but I will never understand the complete disregard for canon that some yumes (and other fans, tbh) have.
No.12090
>>12084Observing online I think the yumes in Japan tend to use online communites just to organize meeting up and going to events IRL
I figured they just want to enjoy being fans together without being judged for being in love but maybe I'm reaching with that theory
Otherwise agree with western communities and the weird push for OCs over talking about actual canon.
>>12088Non English tags seem to be working same as always, it's always my posts tagged in English that get lost.
No.12091
>>12085I was thinking of this guy as I read the previous post lol. IMO the key to yume/OC acceptance is to be an objectively good ARTIST (writers will never reach this level of success no matter how good they are). Also because of the WoL's shared story path XIV lends itself to OC shipping in a way other fandoms typically don't–WoL/NPC shipping isn't on the same level of "girl what the fuck are you doing" as, like, OC/Bakugo.
No.12092
>>12084My friend is a non-sharing yume engaged in yume Discord servers and from what I've seen, yumes just interact with each other like they would "obsessing" over a ship like fujos do. They read about or ask each other about their yumeship's lore, make fanart for each other, etc. I was in a server for a hot minute just to see what it looked like and imo interactions are heavily based on reciprocity. It's more or less unsaid that if someone's commenting on your yumeship, you're expected to talk about theirs too which makes the whole thing inauthentic compared to actual shipping circles. And yeah no one's really talking on a deep level because they're all non-sharing and they can only bear talking to people with husbandos from other media they have no interest in kek.
No.12093
>>12092When I was in a husbandofag space that also allowed some fujoshit for a while it was mostly just people posting character thirst and 'imagine Husbando doing this to (You) or (You) doing this to husbando' prompts, OCs were only mentioned rarely. But I guess that must be only the type of people who are cool with 'sharing'. I enjoy character thirst too, it's only when it gets into involving (You) that I can't follow along and start secondhand cringing or trying to imagine my ship. I don't so much mind non-romantic imagines, though.
No.12094
>>12078I'm in the same boat, nonna. I love dolly kei, but I wear scrubs for work and don't really leave the house. I'm trying a low and slow scheme thought, where I replace one of my clothing items with a cuter version every time I wear it out (ie, free tshirt gets swapped for a blouse). Hopefully this will force me to dress the way I actually want to dress, rather than the way that I'm used to dressing.
No.12096
>>12091You make a good point and that makes me wonder if this is also a thing in other MMO fanbases or whether XIV is an abnormal case. I don't play other MMOs so I have no idea what goes on in those fanbases. Would be funny if there's an equivalent artist in the World of warcraft community.
No.12097
>>12096I've seen people hardcore yume for Teldryn Sero from Skyrim and Margit/Morgott and Messmer from Elden Ring, all with relatively good engagement on their art (tumblr, so like 30-50 notes). But, I've also seen similar but slightly less levels of engagement with male OCs (or 'male' ftm OCs, which is just yumeing with a coat of paint) for both characters.
I've seen doujinshi about Skyrim OCs that seem to sell fairly well, but these aren't usually that shippy.
No.12108
>>12100Unless you're Smitty Yermanjensen or something, 'Jane Smith' liking yaoi isn't going to dox you, dw
It helps me to google my real name from time to time to make sure that my name doppelganger still has her real estate empire as the top results
No.12113
For the past few years, every time I saw AI art I would get a vaguely metallic taste in the back of my sinuses. But it doesn't happen anymore. …I'm not even going to ask if anyone else has experienced this, because I'm sure the answer is no.
No.12117
Do any nonnas here have an ita bag? I collect pins and would love to display them, and my otp kek, but I am 30+ and taking that to work would be insane. I don't want to go through all the trouble of setting something like that up and then never having a place to take it, outside of the 1 convention I end up going to every year.
No.12118
>>12117I have an ita bag but I can't deny that mine usually hangs there among my coats. I take it to cons or when I take a trip to a city to visit a museum or go shopping.
No.12121
>>12119kek, "comrade" in Chinese is also slang for homosexual after all.
No.12123
It's kinda throwing me for a loop how I've heard two younger-seeming review/commentary youtubers just flat out saying the word retarded. I know two isn't a lot but there's an unrelated video I watched where as a joke the youtuber briefly flashed an article onscreen about the word retarded making a comeback and now I'm starting to wonder if that's actually legit. I dunno, I just find that fascinating.
No.12133
I ended up buying the goth clothes I was eyeing and they arrived today. In the end I'm glad I did it cause I felt very happy trying them on. The corset dress was something I should've thought harder about, though, because I quickly realised I am incapable of actually adjusting the corset without help.
No.12134
>>12133>I quickly realised I am incapable of actually adjusting the corset without helpWith back laced stuff the only way you can really do it on your own is by putting it on back to front and then turning it back around.
No.12136
>>12123I've also noticed it's coming back. I keep on waiting for the people I hear saying it to get cancelled or whatever but they don't. I don't exactly care but honestly it makes me a little butthurt that I censor myself so much when other people get to slur it up without consequence.
No.12143
I totally understand why the discourse around 70/80 dollar games is a thing but it recently occurred to me that I don't mind that much on a personal level because I'm used to dropping hundreds of bucks on art commissions so in comparison a videogame isn't that much.
No.12144
I'm not sure if this is the right thread to ask, but there's this private X account that posts nsfw bakudeku fanart and I've tried requesting a few times. Is there any way to circumvent this and get access? They make really great art on their main account so I don't understand why they're being so private with it.
(the account is @hogushi_mi)
No.12145
Am I evil person for being horny?
No.12146
>>12145The short answer is no, but why do you think this?
No.12147
>>12144Are you a locked account with nothing but retweets? I think the artist is only comfortable with letting other fellow bakudekus follow. You need to put that you're an adult and to show that you do at least have an interest in bakudeku
No.12148
>>12146I got into a internet slapfight over fandom becoming more sex-obsessed these days and it just caused me spiral.
No.12149
>>12148>more sex-obsessedIt has always been mostly about making characters boink or cranking your hog to your 2d waifu. The only people who don't understand this (they don't even have to like it!) are normalfags who should not have been online enough to discover fandom in the first place.
No.12150
>>12148Have you ever tried to book a meal with someone that wasn't hungry? That's how I view fandoms and sex. There's nothing wrong with being horny but people aren't always going to share your point of view.
No.12151
>>12147No but my account is empty for the most part, I can see why they wouldn't accept my follow now. I'll rethink my strategy, thank u.
No.12155
>>12152>Host/Salaryman couplesDoes this exist? I went through a phase of looking through host doujins hoping to find a host/male customer pairing but it was all host/host. Drop the recs nonna!