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I had a gendie phase from middle school to right before my last year in high school, which was during Covid. Being a lonely fujo probably contributed to it, but I think the main contribution was puberty. Women’s health is so bad, they couldn’t figure out why I was having such painful cramps, and I still don’t know to this day why my periods were so bad and heavy because they aren’t anymore. I remember a lot of thoughts about mutilation and just wanting it to stop. My junior year of high school, I started thinking of socially transitioning only at school because I knew a few socially transitioned tifs at school. The only thing that stopped me from committing was Covid. It was a blessing in disguise for me. I stopped thinking about transitioning after a while because I now had something else to think about other than my shitty periods and body. Also a year after high school I officially got diagnosed with depression and the pills they gave me worked wonders.

Even during my gendie phase, I don’t think I ever saw tifs as real boys especially because I had met those few in high school. I think if I had met a tim, I probably would’ve escaped the gendie cult faster.

Don't think this thread will take off…

>>11176
I imagine all the ex-gendies who actually committed to it enough to transition, either socially or medically, are over on lolcow.

I had a they/them phase a few years ago and I'm really glad I never transitioned socially or even committed to it beyond just having my online friends refer to me differently. I didn't even cut my hair or anything kek.

>>11177
Do you mean you only "transitioned" online and maybe gave yourself a more androgynous or ambiguous nickname and left it at that?

>>11178
Bingo. I actually used the same name before/after kek, I'll probably end up using it IRL at some point.

I had a "I should've been born as a man" phase as a teenager but that was 1. before I even became a fujo and 2. because I was a lesbian and had a huge amount of internalized homophobia. If anything, getting into fujo stuff in an all-female community slowly made me realize that it's actually really cool to be a woman because I kept seeing so many inspirational girls around myself.

>>11177
>I imagine all the ex-gendies who actually committed to it enough to transition, either socially or medically, are over on lolcow.
I imagine so too kek, maybe an unpopular opinion but I feel like despite the popular belief going full gendie is more of a yume thing. Desisted fujos usually turn into fulltime hetfags.

>>11190
>I feel like despite the popular belief going full gendie is more of a yume thing
Opposite based on my experience. I've seen a lot of he/him yumes quietly detransition over time by going from portraying their self-insert as a "feminine gay man" to just dropping all talk of gender and pronoun shit. But tbh a lot of these people (trans yumes and fujos) are functionally the same group to me kek so many TIF fujos are yumes that are too retarded to understand that they're yumes.

>>11190
I had something similiar, but in my case it was because I grew up very low working class and socially neglected. It felt like it was way easier for my brother to make friends and get through things than it was for me (my female classmates had expensive standards and a certain expectation of etiquette) and I felt a lot of jealousy over it.
That plus being an early bloomer really shut me out of a lot of stuff at the time, though this was a bit before gendie phases became such a common thing.
I do wonder now if being a weeb/fujo helped me through it, though I was still somewhat out of the loop as I couldn't buy merchandise the same way others could. Thank god for pirating.

There was a time I felt angry I'd never have my ideal body as a woman and deeply envied men. I was born more curvy and tall, and got bullied for dressing less femininely as I grew up.

It wasn't until I was an adult that I finally came to terms with the fact that I was just a clueless bisexual who needed to hit the gym and wear whatever I liked. I think too many people who hyperfixate on transitioning believe that you have to be a 'man' or 'enby' to enjoy traditionally masculine styles, which is really annoying. I never felt like anything other than a woman, and I'm glad I was born before the gendie stuff really took off because the rhetoric is overwhelming in many spaces, and even now I have to fight with people who try to tell me I'm an 'egg'.

I hit puberty pretty early and I hated having boobs so much I would wear multiple bras to restrict them. I was also one of the weird kids, tomboyish, chronically online etc. If I was American I'm pretty sure I would have trooned out, but in my country trans stuff is pretty uncommon irl so there wasn't much I could do even if I wanted to. At that time the whole 'truscum vs tucute' debate was a big thing online, but all the spaces i was in were luckily on the 'truscum' side who believed that you couldn't be trans unless you have actual severe dysphoria. I did some research thinking I might be trans but I didnt hate my vag and had no interest in having a dick so I gave it up and accepted I was cis woman after all. If I grew up in the current environment I definitely would have been a they/them for a while.

Wasn't a tif but almost became a gendie before logic took over and I snapped out of it.